Reflections
Writing on therapy, relationships and being human.
Therapy often begins with the questions that are difficult to answer: Why do I keep repeating this? Why does this relationship affect me so deeply? Who am I becoming? What happens when the ways I learned to survive no longer serve me?
These reflections explore some of those questions through psychotherapy, relationships, identity, loss, culture and the complexity of being human.
The Inner World
The Ages We Carry
We tend to think of age as something that can be measured. On the different psychological ages we continue to carry, and what it means to grow up.
The Space Between: Why Freedom Begins with Awareness
One of the most persistent misconceptions about human behaviour is the belief that we act primarily through conscious choice. Yet much of what shapes our lives occurs outside of conscious awareness. We react before we reflect.
Melancholy and the necessary sadness of being human
There are emotions that arrive loudly and announce themselves without apology. Then there are quieter emotional states that live more subtly in the background of our lives. Melancholy is one of those states.
What does Soul mean in 2026?
As we step into 2026, I find myself asking this question more insistently, both in my therapy room and in my own life: what do we mean by soul now? Not as a poetic abstraction or a spiritual bypass, but as something lived, relational, and shaping of how we exist together.
The quiet astonishment of being alive
Mary Oliver’s invitation — pay attention, be astonished, tell about it — forms a quiet philosophy for reclaiming awareness, wonder and meaning in a world that rarely pauses long enough for us to really see it.
The Necessity of Pain: What Jung Meant by “There Is No Coming to Consciousness Without Pain”
Carl Jung wrote, “There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” It is a line that holds both truth and tenderness, a reminder that awakening is rarely a gentle act.
The Weight of the Word: Trauma and the Choice to Become
Trauma was once a sacred word — heavy, careful, trembling. As it stretches across everyday speech, Jung’s invitation remains: we are not only what happened to us, but what we choose to become.
The Prison of Perception: breaking patterns, finding play, and coming home to yourself
We live inside stories. Some of them are inherited. Some were forged in childhood. Others were built quietly over time. These stories become patterns. And these patterns, left unchallenged, can become prisons.
Working with Soul — the importance of being radically human.
In 2025, we find ourselves at a curious crossroads. Technology once a marvel of human progress now saturates every corner of our lives. Yet amid this dazzling acceleration, an ancient question quietly resurfaces: What does it mean to be human?
The Body Remembers: Why Healing Trauma Starts Beneath the Skin.
Trauma isn’t just a memory. It’s not simply a bad story stored in the archives of the mind. Trauma is a body event — a full-body tattoo, inked in cortisol and adrenaline, etched into muscle, nerve, and fascia.