Reflections
Writing on therapy, relationships and being human.
Therapy often begins with the questions that are difficult to answer: Why do I keep repeating this? Why does this relationship affect me so deeply? Who am I becoming? What happens when the ways I learned to survive no longer serve me?
These reflections explore some of those questions through psychotherapy, relationships, identity, loss, culture and the complexity of being human.
Change & Transformation
The Things We Carry: Endings, Beginnings and the Space Between
We like beginnings. There is something clean about them. Endings are harder. They ask us to acknowledge that what has mattered cannot always remain, and that moving forward often requires us to lose something without necessarily ceasing to love it.
The Dark Wood: What Dante Can Teach Us About Feeling Lost
There are moments in life when we realise that the map we have been following no longer works. The landmarks remain visible — work, relationships, responsibilities, routines but they no longer tell us where we are.
The Quiet Seduction of Apathy: Why We Repeat the Lives We Long to Change
Elie Wiesel is often credited with observing that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. Apathy asks for almost nothing. It settles quietly into the spaces where hope has thinned.
The Ordinary Work of Rising
“Our greatest glory is not never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Confucius. Most of us live as though falling is something that happens to other people. And then, in one form or another, the fall arrives.
A Therapeutic Reflection on Life Beyond the Linear
In the West, we are taught to think in straight lines. But underneath this neat structure lies a deeper truth: life rarely, if ever, moves in a straight line.